Sunday, March 20, 2011

College Dating: Success or Failure?

To date or not to date, that is the question.  Many college sweethearts do end up marrying each other, having kids, and growing old together.  Some other couples will not last; but will actually say that they had a great time with each other and will remain very close friends forever.  But yes, there will always be those nightmare couples were one or even both believe that their remaining time on earth will be best spent if they never see or hear from the other again.  I remember a couple who were high school sweethearts and decided to go to the same college.  They always ate together, studied together, and played pool and ping-pong together.  They eventually broke up the summer before their senior year.  From being around each other so much, they never made close friends with others on campus.   Needless to say, they begin eating by themselves, studying by themselves, and were never seen in the reck hall again.  This is no way to end your senior year.   So if you are going to date, please keep these three tips in mind.

1.)  Always make friends with others.   All types of relationships in your life help mold you as a person, and relationships can be a key factor of success in your life.  Education is important.  However, more often, it is not about what you know, but who you know.  As much as your heart can take, put the jealously aside when it comes to your partner having friends and hanging out with others.   Especially in college, your partner should enhance your life, and not be your life.

2.)  Share your goals with each other.  A partner that truly cares about you will always push you to attain your goals.  If your partner becomes a major distraction every time you attempt to work on them, then it may be time to look for another partner.

3.)  Have fun together.  If you do end up growing old together, you will have the rest of your life to argue, play the “not speaking” game, or figure out ways to drive each other crazy.   So make sure that fun is always at the top of the list of things to do.  The only thing that will keep you two together during those hard times will be the memories of the good ones

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